Is My Husband's Loyalty To Me or My Stepchildren?

Well, here I am again. I just wrote about my husband's alcoholism and his lack of performance because of it. He saw a doc last week who ran a blood test re his testosterone level but told him (he says) that his beer drinking nightly isn't the problem. I think he needs to change doctors. Anyway, after enduring his 2 daughters moving in with us when we were barely newlyweds - we married in Feb of last year and they moved in in Aug and stayed until mid-October, I thought we were home free. We married very quickly after we met and since my husband and his kids all lived together and he was supporting most all of the household, it pretty much uprooted them when he and I moved in together. They don't want their Dad with anyone, ever again. So I felt guilty and we agreed they could live with us for awhile. One was an adult and one almost an adult. They did not respect me and after they got a place of their own, my husband and I thought we were finally going to live our life alone. Now his 2 sons have moved in, starting their 2nd week and here we go again. The oldest is a young adult and the youngest is 20 with no job. The oldest has a part time job. We disagree about the heat, as they are always hot and hate the heater on and I am cold. I spend my time in my room all day, retired, and they also do not want my granddaughters to spend the weekend every other weekend like it has been done since we got married because it forces them to find a place to stay for that weekend and they can't afford it. Tonight, we had a fight because my family is visiting for Valentine's Day this Saturday and they wanted to know if they would have to find a place to stay again. We told them no, that the family only lives an hour away and won't stay. But I told them that they expect us to change my arrangement just because they moved in and they said they were homeless and my granddaughters weren't. So I said I guessed I would have to not see my grandaughters indefinitely until they moved out which will break my heart because we do activities together. I do not have control of my own home and my husband said tonight this isn't working out and I should move with my Mom. He sided against his daughters because they did some very mean things to me but now he's siding with his sons and I have only tried to help.